Hari ubwo urukundo rutangira nk’indoto, rugakura nk’icyizere, ariko rukabamo urugamba iyo imibonano mpuzabitsina ihinduka ububabare. Ku bagore benshi, ububabare mu gihe cy’imibonano si inkuru nshya, ariko ni inkuru itavugwa kenshi. Ariko se, koko ni ibisanzwe? Cyangwa ni ikibazo gikwiye kuvugwa no kwitabwaho?
Nicole, umukobwa w’imyaka 33 utuye muri California, ni umwe mu bahamya ko ububabare mu mibonano bushobora guhindura isura y’urukundo. Yatangiye kumva ububabare hashize imyaka icumi, aza gusanga afite ikibazo cyo kutuzura neza kw’ibibero byo hanze (labial hypoplasia). Nyuma yo kubagwa, yifashishije yoga nk’uburyo bwo gukomeza gukira.
Ariko nyuma y’imyaka itandatu, ububabare buragaruka, noneho bukaza hakiri kare mu gihe cy’imibonano. Ubu amaze imyaka itatu ashakisha igisubizo nyacyo, ariko kenshi asubizwa ko ikibazo gishingiye ku mutima cyangwa ku mutwe. “Birambabaza. Nari maze gutera intambwe, none ndumva mpatirwa gusubira inyuma,” avuga.
Nk’uko Ishyirahamwe ry’Abaganga bita ku bagore (ACOG) ribitangaza, abagore 3 kuri 4 bazahura n’ububabare mu gihe cy’imibonano mu gihe runaka cy’ubuzima bwabo. Eva Dillon, umujyanama mu by’imibonano, abivuga mu magambo make: “Imibonano ntigomba kubabaza na rimwe.”
Impamvu zitera ububabare
Imwe mu mpamvu zisanzwe ni uko imikaya yo mu kiziba cy’inda ifungana ku buryo budasanzwe. Ibi bitera gutinya imibonano, kubabara mu gihe cyo gukoresha tampon, no kugorwa n’ibizamini bya muganga.
Dr. Anna Falter, inzobere mu myitozo ivura imikaya (pelvic floor therapy), avuga ko ububabare bushobora guturuka no ku mikaya ifunganye mu gatuza, ijosi, umugongo n’imisaya. Stress, ibikomere byabayeho mbere, cyangwa imisemburo yahindutse cyane cyane mu gihe cyo gucura cyangwa ku babyeyi bonka, byose bishobora kugira uruhare.
Uko bivurwa
Hari uburyo bw’imyitozo bukoreshwa mu kureremba no kurambura imikaya yo mu kiziba cy’inda, burimo trigger point therapy aho muganga akanda imikaya yafashwe abinyujije imbere mu gitsina, akoresheje urutoki rwambaye agapfukamunwa n’amavuta yoroheje.
Abagore bashobora no kwigishwa uko babyikorera mu rugo bifashishije intoki zabo, cyangwa abo bashakanye. Iyo bashishikajwe no gufashanya, bashobora no kwitabira ibyo biganiro byihariye.
Hari kandi imyitozo yo guhumeka neza no kurambura imikaya, yoga nko mu myanya ya child’s pose, butterfly stretch n’indi igamije kuruhura umubiri.
Iyo urukundo ruhinduka urugamba
Niba uwo mubana afite ububabare, icy’ingenzi ni ukureka guhita mukomeza imibonano. Kugumana no kwigomwa ntibivuze gutandukana n’akanyamuneza. Hari ibindi bikorwa bitari imibonano byafasha: gufatana, gusomana, kuvugana, no kugaragarizanya urukundo mu buryo bworoshye.
Nicole n’umukunzi we bahisemo kureba ubundi buryo bwo gusabana, barakomeza kuryoshya urukundo n’ubwo imibonano isanzwe itari iri mu mahitamo yabo ya mbere. Ubu bituma biyumva hafi cyane, kuko batangiye kuvugana byimbitse ku buzima bw’umubiri, uburibwe n’uburyo bwo kubuvura.
“Nta gihe byari byoroshye. Ariko byatumye tubana ku rundi rwego. Twamenyanye byimbitse mbere y’uko tubana mu buryo busanzwe,” Nicole asobanura.
Ububabare mu gihe cy’imibonano si igihano, si isoni, kandi si ibintu umuntu akwiye kwihanganira mu bwigunge. Ni umuburo, ni ikimenyetso. Urukundo rugira ibihe, rugira ingorane, ariko iyo ruherekezwa no kuvuga ukuri, kumva no gufashanya, ntiruhinduka urugamba—ruhinduka isomo.