Nyuma yo gukura, Kumenya ubwenge, kurangiza amashuri abanza ndetse na kaminuza biragoye kubona inshuti no guhuza n’abantu batari abo mukorana. Mu buzima ntawifuza kubaho wenyine ubuzima bwiza ni ubuzima burimo inshuti kandi nziza muhuje. Ariko byinshi mubitsinda ni ukubaka umuyoboro no gushaka inshuti mu bikorwa byawe, kandi ibyo bikubiyemo guhindura abantu nkawe. Ariko nigute ushobora kubona inshuti nk’umuntu mukuru? Nigute ushobora guhindura abantu nkawe? Birasa nk’ibikorwa bifatika, ariko hariho tekinike rusange ushobora gukoresha kugira ngo igufashe gukora ibiganiro bito byoroshye. Dore intambwe icumi zuburyo bwo gutsindira inshuti no kugira abantu nkawe:
Erekana inyungu nyazo: Witondere abandi kandi werekane ko ushishikajwe n’ubuzima bwabo, ibyiyumvo byabo, n’inkuru zabo. Ibi bizatuma bumva ko bafite agaciro kandi ari ngombwa kubana nawe.
Umwenyure kandi ukomeze imvugo nziza y’umubiri: Kumwenyura ususurutse hamwe n’ururimi rw’umubiri ufunguye bitanga igitekerezo cyiza cya mbere kandi kigutera kwiyegereza abantu bari hafi yawe cyangwa abo muhurira mu bikorwa bitandukanye.
Uge ubumva neza: Witoze gutega amatwi witonze utanga ibitekerezo byuzuye, ukomeza guhuza amaso n’abo muganira no kubaza ibibazo bikurikirana kandi bifitanye isano n’ikiganiro. Ibi byerekana ko uha agaciro kandi wubaha ibitekerezo byabo.
Ibuka kandi ukoreshe amazina y’abantu: Abantu bakunda amajwi y’izina ryabo. Koresha amazina yabo mu gihe k’ibiganiro kugira ngo bumve ko bamenyekanye kandi bashimwe.
Shakisha aho uhurira: Menya inyungu zisangiwe cyangwa ingingo mwembi mukunda kuganira. Kubaka amasano ashingiye kubisanzwe bifasha kwimakaza ubucuti hagati yawe na bagenzi bawe.
Gushyigikira no kwishyira mu mwanya wabo: Tanga inkunga no gusobanukirwa mugihe abantu bahuye n’ibibazo. Erekana impuhwe wishyize mu mwanya wabo kandi ugerageze kumva icyo batekereza. Tanga ubujyanama n’ubundi bufasha ufite igihe biri ngombwa.
Ba inyangamugayo kandi witoze gushimira: ubunyangamugayo no gushimira bikurura abantu. Komeza imitekerereze myiza kandi ugaragaze ko ushimira ku bintu n’abantu ushima mu buzima bwawe.
Tanga ishimwe ry’ukuri: Shimira abandi ubikuye ku mutima kandi by’umwihariko. Menya ibyo bagezeho, impano zabo, cyangwa imbaraga zabo zo kwihesha agaciro no gutuma bumva bamerewe neza.
Fasha kandi ugire neza: Tanga ubufasha mu gihe gikenewe kandi witondere ibyo abandi bakeneye. Ibikorwa by’ineza bigera kure mu gukomeza ubucuti no kubaka umubano mwiza.
Irinde gusebanya no kunegura: Irinde kwishora mu gusebanya cyangwa kuvuga nabi abandi. Ahubwo, wibande ku biganiro byubaka no gutera inkunga amagambo meza afite umumaro.
Muby’ukuri ibuka ko inshuti ari nziza ari umugisha, kubaka ubucuti nyabwo bisaba igihe n’imbaraga. Koresha aya mahame ubudahwema, uzisanga ukikijwe n’inshuti nziza z’umumaro zishimira kandi ziha agaciro ukuhaba kwawe.
Umwanditsi: TUYIHIMBAZE Horeb
