Mu rukundo, ntibiba byoroshye gutahura ukuri k’umuntu mugendana, cyane iyo hari ibanga rikomeye ashaka guhisha. Hari abagabo biyitirira abasore kandi bari abagabo bubatse, bafite ingo n’imiryango bashinze. Ibi bishobora kugutera intimba, gucika intege no gutakariza abantu bose icyizere, ariko kumenya ukuri ni intambwe ikomeye mu kwirinda kubabazwa no kurengera ahazaza hawe.
Dore ibimenyetso bikwereka ko uwo mukundana ashobora kuba afite urugo:
1. Abamo ubuzima bwuzuyemo ibanga n’ubwirinzi budasobanutse
Iyo umugabo adashaka ko umumenya byimbitse, ntushobore kumenya aho atuye, akazi akora n’abantu be ba hafi, ni ikimenyetso gikomeye cy’uko ashobora kuba ari guhisha byinshi—birimo n’umugore.
2. Umwanya we ni muto kandi udahinduka
Iyo mudashobora kuvugana nijoro cyangwa mu mpera z’icyumweru, ngo mwirirwane cyangwa musohokane uko ubishaka, bishobora kuba ari uko aba afite inshingano z’urugo rwe rwa mbere.
3. Ntazigera akujyana aho asanzwe azwi
Niba umukunzi wawe adashaka ko mugaragara hamwe ahantu nko mu kabari, restaurant cyangwa mu birori rusange, ushobora kuba ari uko atinya ko hari umuntu wamumenya, cyane cyane umugore we.
4. Telefone ye ayifata nk’icyuma cy’ibanga
Iyo arakaye igihe ufashe telefone ye cyangwa yirinda kuyifungura mu ruhame, bishobora kuba ari uko ari guhisha ubutumwa cyangwa amafoto atakwishimira ko ubona.
5. Ntashaka ko musangiza amafoto ku mbuga nkoranyambaga
Iyo agutsinze amagambo nk’“ntabwo nkunda gushyira ubuzima bwanjye hanze”, kenshi aba ashaka kwirinda ko umugore we cyangwa inshuti ze babona ko afite undi mukobwa akundana na we.
6. Amagambo ye yuzuyemo kwibwira, ntiyigira ku hazaza hanyu
Iyo mubiganiriye, ntashishikazwa no kugira gahunda z’ahazaza hanyu—nko kubana, gukora ubukwe cyangwa gutekereza ku buzima bwanyu nyuma—bishobora kuba ari uko ibyo byose abifite ahandi.
Kuki ari ngombwa kumenya ukuri kare?
Kumenya kare ko uwo ukundana afite urugo bituma wirinda kwishora mu rukundo rudafite icyerekezo. Bituma wirinda guhutaza undi mugore ndetse n’ubuzima bwawe bukarindwa ibikomere byo mu mutima. Si byo ushaka? Urukundo rwuzuye ukuri n’icyizere.
Niba ufite ibyo ukeka, ntugatinye kubaza, kugenzura no gufata icyemezo kiboneye. Kwibeshya ku muntu mukundana ni ibisanzwe, ariko gukomeza kubana n’uwakubeshye igihe cyose ni amahitamo yawe.