Hari ubwo abantu bamwe babaho bumva ko isi yose ibareba, bumva ko abandi bababera urumuri, ko ari bo rukumbi bashoboye. Ni abantu benshi bita abiyemera—cyangwa se mu rurimi rw’ubumenyi, aba “narcissists.” Ubushakashatsi bushya bwagaragaje ko n’ubwo aba bantu usanga bagira amagambo menshi, kwiyemera, no kwigira ba ntamakemwa, kenshi babura ikintu cy’ingenzi: abantu babagumaho, babakira, cyangwa babemera mu mibanire ya buri munsi.
Ibyo ubushakashatsi bushya bwagaragaje
Abahanga basanze abantu bafite kamere yo kwiyemera cyane bakunze kwirukanwa mu matsinda, bagasigara bonyine. Ibi babiterwa n’imyitwarire yabo ikomeretsa abandi—nk’ubwirasi, kutumva abandi, no gushaka kwigira ba nyamwigendaho. Ibi byose bituma nubwo baba bafite amagambo meza, bagira ibitekerezo byinshi, batakaza igihango gifatanya abantu: ubumuntu.
Iyo batangiye kwumva ko batitabwaho, cyangwa basuzuguritse, barushaho kugira uburakari, bagakaza imvugo, bakarushaho kwerekana ubugome, bakibwira ko isi yose ibanga. Nyamara, uko bagenda bitwara gutyo niko abandi barushaho kubirinda, bikaba umuzenguruko w’imibanire y’akarengane n’ukwigereranya n’igihe cyose.
Kubaho mu mwijima w’ubwigunge
Ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko abantu biyemera cyane bagira ibyago byinshi byo kwisanga mu bwigunge, ntibemerwe n’itsinda, haba mu kazi cyangwa mu buzima busanzwe. N’ubwo bashobora kugira impano, ubwenge cyangwa kwigaragaza neza, ntibashobora gusigasira umubano muremure kubera uko bitwara.
Ese barahinduka?
Yego, ariko bisaba byinshi. Bisaba kwitabwaho hakiri kare, kubona ubufasha bwa gihanga, ndetse no kwiga uko umuntu yakubaka umubano mwiza utarimo guhohotera abandi. Hari uburyo bwo kubafasha, burimo kwigishwa uko bareka kumva ko abandi bose bagomba kubaho babashimisha, ahubwo bakamenya kwicisha bugufi, bakumva, bagasangira ubuzima n’abandi.
Iyo umuntu yarenze urugero mu kwigira igitangaza, amagambo ye ntiyongera kugira icyo avuga. Iyo yishe umubano umwe kuri umwe, akawusimbuza gukangara no kwishyira hejuru, birangira nta n’umwe usigaye amwumva. Nk’uko ubushakashatsi bubyerekana, abiyemera ntibabura amagambo—ariko babura abantu.
