Mu gihe benshi bakunze kubona urukundo rushingiye ku myaka nk’ikintu kigomba gukurikiza amahame amenyerewe, hari umubare ugenda wiyongera w’abagabo bakiri bato bakundana n’abagore babarusha imyaka. Nubwo bamwe bakibifata nk’ibidasanzwe, ubu bwoko bw’umubano bufite umwihariko wabwo ndetse bushobora kuzana inyungu zikomeye ku mpande zombi.

Abahanga mu by’imitekerereze n’imibanire y’abantu bagaragaza ko uru rukundo rushobora kuba amahirwe yo gukura no kwiyungura ubunararibonye, cyane cyane ku basore bakiri bato bagishakisha uburyo bwo kwiyubaka mu rukundo no mu buzima busanzwe.

Umubano ushingiye ku bwuzuzanye

Abagabo benshi bakiri bato baba batarubaka umutungo uhagije, izina cyangwa uburambe mu buzima, ibintu bikunze kongera amahirwe yabo mu rukundo uko imyaka igenda yiyongera. Ku rundi ruhande, abagore bageze mu myaka ya za 30 cyangwa 40 baba bafite uburambe n’ubumenyi bw’ubuzima, nubwo hari imyumvire imwe n’imwe ya sosiyete ikomeza gushyira imbere ubuto ku bagore.

Ibi bituma impande zombi zishobora guhura zifite urwego rusa mu buryo bwo guhitamo no gukundwa, bityo umubano ukubakwa ku bwubahane no ku kumva ko buri wese afite icyo azaniye undi.

Ubwumvikane mu rukundo no mu mibonano

Kimwe mu bituma ubu bwoko bw’umubano bushobora gutsinda ni uko akenshi haba hari ubwuzuzanye mu byifuzo by’abakundana. Abasore bakiri bato baba bafite imbaraga nyinshi n’inyota yo gukunda, mu gihe abagore bakuze baba bafite icyizere, uburambe n’ubwisanzure mu kugaragaza ibyo bakeneye.

Ibi bituma habaho itumanaho ryiza no kunyurwa ku mpande zombi, aho buri wese ashobora kuvuga icyo akeneye nta bwoba cyangwa gukina amayeri akunze kuboneka mu rukundo rw’abataramenya neza ibyo bashaka.

Kwiga no gukura mu mubano

Abagore bakuze akenshi baba bafite uburambe mu rukundo no mu buzima muri rusange. Ibyo bituma bashobora gufasha umusore kumenya uburyo bwo kuganira neza, kubaha mugenzi we, gusobanukirwa amarangamutima ndetse no kuba umukunzi mwiza.

Ku basore benshi, uyu mubano ushobora kuba ishuri ribafasha kubaka icyizere, kwimenya no kwitegura neza umubano bazagira mu gihe kizaza.

Umubano ushobora kutamara imyaka myinshi ariko ugasiga isomo rikomeye

Nubwo hari imibanire myinshi y’ubu bwoko iramba, hari n’iyo usanga imara imyaka mike. Ibi akenshi biterwa n’uko buri wese aba afite intego zitandukanye mu buzima, cyane cyane ku bijyanye no kubaka umuryango no kubyara.

Icyakora kuba umubano utamara igihe kirekire ntibisobanuye ko nta gaciro uba ufite. Hari igihe abantu bahura kugira ngo bafashanye gukura, kwiga no kugera ku rwego runaka rw’iterambere ryabo bwite.

Ibyo buri ruhande rwigira muri uyu mubano

Ku musore:

Kwigira uburyo bwo kuvugana neza n’umukunzi.

Kumenya kubaha imbibi n’ibyifuzo bya mugenzi we.

Kubaka icyizere mu rukundo.

Kunoza ubushobozi bwo gukemura ibibazo mu mubano.

Ku mugore:

Kongera kugira ibyishimo n’imbaraga mu buzima.

Kugirana umubano utarimo igitutu cy’imigenzo isanzwe.

Kwishimira kubona uwo bakundana akura kandi atera imbere.

Kubona urukundo rushingiye ku bwisanzure no ku bwubahane.

Isomo rikomeye rivuye muri uyu mubano

Uyu mubano ugaragaza ko imyaka atari yo yonyine igena niba abantu babana neza cyangwa batabana neza. Icy’ingenzi ni uko habaho ubwumvikane, kubahana, kuvugisha ukuri no kumenya ibyo buri wese akeneye.

Unatwigisha ko umubano mwiza utagomba gupimirwa gusa ku gihe umara, ahubwo no ku ngaruka nziza usiga mu buzima bw’abawubayemo.

Mu isi aho abantu benshi bakomeje kwizirika ku mitekerereze ya kera ku rukundo, umubano hagati y’umusore n’umugore umurusha imyaka werekana ko urukundo rushobora kuboneka mu buryo bwinshi butandukanye.

Iyo rushingiye ku kuri, icyizere n’ubwubahane, uru rukundo rushobora gufasha buri wese gukura, kwiyungura ubunararibonye no kubona ibyishimo. Ibi bitwereka ko rimwe na rimwe amasomo akomeye y’ubuzima ashobora guturuka aho tutari tuyategereje, ari na byo bituma benshi binjira muri uru rukundo bagasanga rugira umumaro urenze uwo bari baratekereje.