Abashakanye benshi ntibamenya ibi. Ariko, ingingo baganiraho zishobora guhindura icyerekezo cy’ahazaza habo. Hari ingingo zimwe zigoye kandi zidafite akamaro, ariko hari izindi zifasha kunga ubumwe no kwiga byinshi ku wundi mu buryo butandukanye.Mu by’ukuri, kuganira ku ngingo ziboneye ni byo bitandukanya umubano wishimye n’umubano utiahimye. Waba warigeze kumva nta byo kuvuga mufite, yaba kuri telefone cyangwa igihe muri kumwe nijoro? Ibi biba kuri benshi. Ariko kenshi, gutakaza ibyo kuvuga ntibiterwa no kutagira amagambo, ahubwo biterwa no kutamenya uwo mubana bihagije!
Ni gute ingingo ziboneye zo kuganiraho zishobora gufasha gukomeza urukundo?
Niba uri mu mubano mushya, ushobora kugira byinshi ushaka kubaza. Ariko, ubwoba bwo kumva ko uri burenze cyangwa ukababaza bishobora gutuma hari byinshi utavuga.Niba uri mu mubano umaze igihe, ushobora kuba umenyereye mugenzi wawe ku buryo guceceka byabaye ibisanzwe. Ariko, buri gihe, mugomba kuzana ibyishimo n’ishyaka mu mubano wanyu muganira ku bintu biboneye.
Igihe cyose mumaze mu mubano, itumanaho ni ryo rihuza abashakanye kandi rigafasha mu kumvikana neza.
Ingingo zo kuganiraho mu mubano kugira ngo mwiyunge:
Dore ibintu byiza byo kuganiraho. Bizagufasha gukorera hamwe aho guhora musubiranamo. Tangirira kuri izi ngingo zimwe, uzabona ukuntu byoroshye kubaka urukundo n’ubusabane binyuze mu biganiro byiza:
- Icyo mubona gishimishije
Muganire ku migambi y’impera y’icyumweru nubwo byaba ari ku wa Mbere. Ibi birashimishije kandi bituma mugira icyo mwitegaho nyuma y’icyumweru kirekire cy’akazi. Ibi kandi bifasha mwembi gukomeza kwishimira iminsi iri imbere.
- Icyo yishimira kuri wowe
Baza mugenzi wawe icyo akunda cyangwa yishimira cyane kuri wowe. Muganire ku byo ukunda cyangwa yishimira kuri mugenzi we. Ibi bizatuma buri wese yumva ko afashwa kandi ashimwa.
- Ni iki kikubabaje muri iyi minsi?
Iki kibazo cyiroroheje, ariko gishobora gutuma mugenzi wawe yumva ko ufite urukundo kandi witaye kuri we. Nubwo nta kibazo yaba afite, kumenya ko umwitayeho bizatuma yiyumva neza mu mubano wanyu.
- Ibihe by’akazi
Muganire ku bijyanye n’akazi, yaba ari umushinga mushya cyangwa umuyobozi ugoye mu kazi. Kwungurana ibitekerezo ku kazi kanyu bifasha buri wese gusobanukirwa neza uko uwo mubana abona akazi kawe.
- Amabanga mashya
Gira ibyo ubwira mugenzi wawe utari warigeze umubwira. Mushobora no kubigira nk’umukino aho mwembi muvuga amabanga mashya buri wese mu mwanya we.
- Ibiganiro bijyanye n’amafilime cyangwa ibiganiro bishya bya televiziyo
Muganire ku biganiro bishya bya televiziyo cyangwa amafilime mashya mwashimishwa no kureba. Ibi bituma mugira ibyo mwitegaho hamwe.
- Inzozi mu buzima
Vuga ku nzozi zawe. Byatuma mugenzi wawe amenya ibitekerezo byawe, intego zawe, ndetse n’icyerekezo cyawe mu buzima.
- Ibiryo bishya
Nubwo mugenzi wawe ataba akunda guteka, azakunda kuganira ku biryo biryoshye. Mugire aho mwateganya kuzajya gusohokera, cyangwa mwige uko mwateka ibintu bishya hamwe.
- Aho mwifuza kujya
Muganire ku biruhuko cyangwa ingendo mwifuza kuzajyana. Ibi biganisha ku byishimo no kwishimira ejo hazaza.
- Ibyo buri wese akora mu gihe cy’umwihariko
Sangira ibyo ukunda gukora igihe uri wenyine. Kandi baza mugenzi wawe ibyo akunda muri ubwo buryo.Izi ngingo zizabafasha kubaka umubano mwiza kandi uzira gucika intege.