Muri iki gihe cy’iterambere ry’itangazamakuru n’imbuga nkoranyambaga, abantu benshi bagira umuco wo gusangiza ibyabo byose ku bandi. Benshi bashyira ku mbuga nkoranyambaga amafoto ari kumwe n’abo bakunda, ibihe byiza bagirana, ndetse n’ibibazo bahura nabyo mu rukundo. Nubwo gusangiza abandi ibyishimo byawe bishobora kuba byiza, hari impamvu zikomeye zituma ugomba kugira ibanga mu rukundo rwawe.
1. Birinda ko abandi bivanga mu rukundo rwawe
Urukundo ni urwa babiri. Iyo usangije abantu benshi amakuru y’urukundo rwawe, uba ubahaye urubuga rwo kukugira inama, kukugira inama mbi cyangwa kugira uruhare mu byemezo bigenga ubuzima bwawe bwite. Umuryango, inshuti, ndetse n’abamenyi bashobora kugerageza kukwereka uko ugomba kwitwara, bikaba byatuma utakaza ubwigenge mu gufata ibyemezo bigenga urukundo rwawe.
2. Birinda ko abantu bacira urubanza urukundo rwawe
Iyo buri muntu wese azi uko urukundo rwawe rumeze, bivuze ko buri wese ashobora kugira icyo aruvugaho. Benshi batangira kukwigira inama bitabareba, bakagutera gushidikanya cyangwa kwiyumvisha ibintu bitari byo. Kutashyira ku karubanda ibibera mu rukundo rwawe bifasha kwirinda guhabwa ibitekerezo bibi bishobora kugira ingaruka ku mubano wawe.
3. Bigabanya amakimbirane n’ubwumvikane buke
Ibibazo mu rukundo ni ibisanzwe, ariko iyo abantu bo hanze babimenye, bishobora gukura mu gihagararo. Iyo ushyize ku karubanda ibibazo mufitanye, uba ubihaye abandi ngo babivugiremo. Ibi bishobora gutuma biborohera kubyutsa amakimbirane aho kuyakemura mu bwumvikane. Kubika ibanga bituma biborohera gukemura ibibazo byanyu mwembi mutagombye kugira uwo mubishora hanze.
4. Bibafasha kugira umwanya uhagije wo kwishimana
Iyo mudakunze gushyira urukundo rwanyu ku karubanda, mugira umwanya wo kwishimana, mugakundana nta gahato ko kugira ibyo mwereka abandi. Ibi bituma mugirana ibihe byiza, mukarushaho kumenyana no gukundana byimbitse, mutitaye ku bitekerezo by’abari hanze.
5. Birinda ko abanzi banyu babona aho bahera babasenya
Si buri wese wishimira ibyishimo by’abandi. Iyo abantu bashoboye kumenya buri kintu ku rukundo rwawe, aba bagira ishyari bashobora gukoresha ayo makuru kugira ngo basenye umubano wanyu. Kwitondera ibyo usangiza abantu ni bumwe mu buryo bwo gukomeza gukundana mu mutuzo no kwirinda abo bagambanyi.
6. Bifasha mu gihe habayeho gutandukana
Niba usangiza abantu byose ku rukundo rwawe, iyo bibaye ngombwa ko mutandukana, bigenda bigorana cyane. Buri wese aba azi ibyanyu, bakajya bagira icyo babivugaho, bakakubaza impamvu, ndetse bamwe bakaba babivugaho ibitandukanye n’ukuri. Ariko iyo urukundo rwawe rwabaga rwihariye hagati yanyu babiri, no gutandukana bibaho mu bwitonzi kandi ntibikugireho ingaruka zikomeye.
Umwanzuro
Gusangiza abandi ibyiza by’urukundo rwawe bishobora kugushimisha, ariko si byiza gusangiza byose. Kugira ibanga mu rukundo ni ingenzi kuko bituma urukundo rwanyu ruba urwa babiri, bigafasha mu gukemura ibibazo, no kurinda urukundo rwanyu abashobora kurugiraho ingaruka mbi. Icy’ingenzi si uko abantu babona urukundo rwawe, ahubwo ni uko wowe n’umukunzi wawe mushimishijwe n’umubano wanyu, mukaba mu munezero n’ubwumvikane nyabwo.