Kurera ni imwe mu nshingano zikomeye kandi zigoye mu buzima. Ni inshingano z’ababyeyi gushyiraho no guhindura imikurire y’abana babo mu bantu no muri sosiyete ku buryo batanga umusaruro, impuhwe, kandi bagakura buzuye. Ariko, iki gikorwa ntikireba ba nyina gusa, ahubwo ni kimwe na ba se cyangwa banyakubahwa kirabareba. Ese umugabo ushobora kubyara abana beza ni muntu ki? Menya imico y’ingenzi itandukanya umugabo mwiza ushoboye kubyara abana beza.
Kubaha no kugira neza. Umugwaneza mwiza ayobora by’intangarugero, yubaha buri wese akamuha icyubahiro kandi akagira n’impuhwe. Abana bareba kandi bakigira kubikorwa by’ababyeyi babo, kandi mu gukomeza kwerekana icyubahiro no kugirira neza abandi, umugabo yigisha abana be indangagaciro binyuze mu cyubahiro bityo abana bagakurana ubushobozi bwo gushima ubudasa, kwerekana impuhwe, no guteza imbere umubano mwiza.
Ubunyangamugayo no kuba inyangamugayo. Umugabo ufite imico myiza agomba kwerekana ubunyangamugayo kandi akarangwa n’ubunyangamugayo igihe cyose. Mu gukorera mu mucyo no kuvugisha ukuri, ashyiraho urufatiro rwo kwizerana mu muryango we. Abana bakurira mu bidukikije aho kuba inyangamugayo bihabwa agaciro birashoboka cyane kuba abantu bizerwa ubwabo, bagatsimbataza imico yabo kandi bakarema ikizere mu bikorwa byabo.
Ubuhanga bwo gutumanaho cyangwa bwo gushyikirana. Itumanaho ryiza no gushyikirana kwiza bifite uruhare runini mu guteza imbere umubano ukomeye no kwimakaza amarangamutima meza mu muryango. Umugwaneza mwiza agomba gutega amatwi abana be ashishikaye, agashishikariza ibiganiro byiza bibahugura kandi akagaragaza ibyiyumvo bye mu buryo bwiyubashye. Muguteza imbere ubuhanga bwiza bwo gushyikirana, abana biga kwigaragaza mu buryo bwiza no kwitwararika, gushaka inkunga, no gukemura amakimbirane byubaka.
Guha imbaraga no gutera inkunga. Kubyara abana beza, umugabo mwiza agomba guteza imbere ibidukikije biteza imbere gukura, kwigenga, no kwihesha agaciro. Mu gushishikariza abana gukurikirana inzozi zabo, gucukumbura inyungu zabo, no gutsinda ibibazo, nyakubahwa mwiza abaha imbaraga zo kwihesha agaciro no guhesha abandi agaciro harimo n’imiryango yabo ndetse n’Igihugu. Uyu mwuka urera utuma abana bizera ubushobozi bwabo kandi bakagera kubyo bashoboye byose.
Ubwitange n’uruhare. Umugabo mwiza yumva akamaro ko kugira uruhare rugaragara mu buzima bw’abana be. Ashyira imbere kumarana umwanya n’umuryango we, kwishora mu bikorwa, no kwitabira gahunda zabo za buri munsi. Binyuze muri urwo ruhare, umugabo agira ubumenyi bwimbitse ku mico y’abana be, imbaraga, intege nke, n’ibyifuzo. Na none, ubu bumenyi bumufasha gutanga ubuyobozi n’ubufasha bwihariye, guhindura imico y’abana be no kubarera neza muri rusange.
Muri make, imico y’umugabo myiza ishobora kubyara abana beza iratandukanye, ariko ifite akamaro mu burere bw’umwana. Mu kugaragaza icyubahiro, ubugwaneza, ubunyangamugayo, itumanaho ryiza n’ubusabane, imbaraga n’ubwitange, ba se bashobora gushyiraho uburyo buteza imbere imikurire y’abana beza kandi buzuye. Binyuze mu kwerekana iyo mico niho umuntu witonda agira ingaruka nziza kubana be, abaha ibikoresho nkenerwa kugira ngo bagende mubuzima bafite ikizere, impuhwe, n’ubunyangamugayo. Umugabo mwiza rero ni isoko y’abana beza mu muryango.
Umwanditsi: TUYIHIMBAZE Horeb