Mu gitabo cy’iterambere ry’umuntu ku giti cye Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill agira ati “Icyifuzo cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina nicyo gikomeye cyane mubyifuzo byabantu. Iyo bayobowe n’iki cyifuzo, abagabo bagira ubushake bwo gutekereza, ubutwari, ubushakei bw’mbaraga, gutsimbarara, n’ubushobozi bwo guhanga batazwi mu bindi bihe”.
Imibonano mpuzabitsina ijyanye no gutsinda, kandi ni ibintu bitangaje. Ariko nigute twageze aho ibi bisa nkaho bitavugwaho rumwe kuganira cyangwa kwandika?
Nizera ko kutaganira kubyerekeye igitsina bifitanye isano itaziguye no gusabana kwacu, no kubagore, uburinganire. Umuco wacu ugaragaza akamaro ko guhuza ibitsina kandi wagize imibonano mpuzabitsina ikintu kitaganiriweho cyangwa gifatwa nkikintu gikomeye cyubuzima. By’umwihariko, abagore bakunda kwitondera gutukwa na sosiyete, bityo bagakoresha imbaraga zabo zimibonano mpuzabitsina gake cyane kubagabo. Abagore bashobora kwifata cyane mugihe babonye imbaraga zimibonano mpuzabitsina zundi zikoreshwa muburyo bubi.
Impamvu 3 Imibonano mpuzabitsina zatuma ugera kuri byinshi
Imbaraga zimibonano mpuzabitsina zishobora kuba zakwanduzwa. Hill avuga ko abantu bagezeho cyane “bize ubuhanga bwo kwanduza igitsina” – bashobora kwimurira imbaraga zabo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina mu bindi bikorwa, nk’imyuga yabo. Imibonano mpuzabitsina nimwe mumbaraga zikomeye twe nkabantu dushobora kubona. Niba ushobora guhuza izo mbaraga neza, uzagera ahirengeye mubitekerezo no gutsinda.
Imibonano mpuzabitsina nurukundo biteza imbere umurimo wawe. Napoleon Hill yavuze ko “abagabo bageze ku mahirwe menshi kandi bakamenyekana cyane mu buvanganzo, ubuhanzi, inganda, ubwubatsi, ndetse n’indi myuga, babitewe n’umugore.” Kimwe nigikorwa icyo ari cyo cyose gishimishije, niba udakunda wenyine kandi ukaba warasezeranye byuzuye, ntuzabona inyungu nyinshi. Ninkaho gukora imyitozo ariko kwikubita mumutwe mugihe ubikora: inyungu zimyitozo ngororamubiri zizahakana no kuganira kwawe nabi. Ni nako bigenda no guhuza ibitsina. Imibonano mpuzabitsina ikomeye, ihujwe, yuje urukundo ishobora kuba amavuta ushakisha icyo gitekerezo gikurikira cyangwa guhumeka ukeneye kujya murwego rukurikira mumirimo yawe.
Imibonano mpuzabitsina igushyira mumwanya wo guhanga. Imbaraga, ubuzima hamwe nicyifuzo wunguka mubitsina bishobora kongera imbaraga zo guhanga no gutekereza udushya. Hariho ingaruka z’imitekerereze, imisemburo irekurwa mugihe cyo gusohora ni nziza kuri wowe. Umusemburo wa Oxytocine urekurwa mumubiri, iraruhura kandi ituma wumva ko wegereye umukunzi wawe.